How We Can Make A Difference In Families

By Robin Keating

This month, as we have been considering the effects of poverty on the family unit, you might find yourself asking the question, “How can I help? My family is having a hard time making ends meet ourselves.” Yes, helping financially is sometimes our first “go to” and then we tell ourselves, “I wish I could help, but just can’t afford it.” We may even find ourselves starting to avoid the neighbor that is in need of financial help because we think that this is the only type of poverty they are experiencing.

But what if there were other things we could offer for support that are just as important? Think for a moment about how you enjoy spending time with your family. Is it having meals together? Maybe it’s board games? Think back to when you were a child. What were some of the life skills your parents taught you that you did together? What were some good memories you have that helped form who you are today?

Your relational support can actually benefit neighbors by boosting their confidence. It gives them a sense of belonging, significance and purpose. Here are some ways to consider supporting your neighbor relationally:

• In homes where the father is absent, the need for a male role model is huge! Guys, you can have a significant impact on children by simply expressing interest in their lives and being excited to see them outside. If you are doing tasks outside your own house, ask the kids for their help. (Even when you don’t need it.) Modeling responsibility and incorporating fun or a conversation, can have a profoundly positive impact on a child.
• Many women are in need of empathy and encouragement. They need a good listener to allow them to verbally process what they are experiencing. Be present and actively listening. Listen for their strengths like perseverance, determination and resolve. Find something you might do with them. Simple things like grocery shopping together, a project in the home, anything that they need to do will suffice. The point is to do it together.
• Encourage your neighbor by sharing meaningful traditions that you had with your family. Simple things that you looked forward to as a child.
• Find tasks, occasions, and errands to do together. From borrowing sugar for baking to sharing that you need a walking partner to keep you accountable to exercise, ask for their company in the things that you usually do alone.

Most importantly, ask God to direct your steps in best ways to point people to positive, encouraging steps towards a healthier family unit. Families will never be perfect, but they can become healthy. Exemplify how following Jesus brings contentment and peace even in the midst of financial poverty.